If you were to ask people who they really were, nine times out of ten they would open their hands expressively and say ” Your looking at it! This is me, what you see is what you get”. I believe that this is said in all honesty. But is it really true!
Who we are, the image we present to the world, is often a composite of learned behaviour and habits picked up from other people. We live in a culture where there is a lot of pressure to conform with the majority. Even those people who like to be a little bit different, will still do so within a group of like-minded people. What we wear, the music we like, our political opinions are all influenced to a large degree by our parents and peer pressure. Wanting to fit in. To be admired, respected and thought well of by our own particular circle of friends.
Do you always say what you mean? Are you able to give an honest opinion without thinking first about how it might be received by other people? Do you actually know what it is that you believe that you haven’t learned second hand from someone else? These are all questions that you should ask yourself, if you want to determine to what degree you are being your true self.
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I do not believe that there is a single person living, who can claim, that in their whole life they have never made a mistake. Indeed, most people will tell you, that it has been through their mistakes, that they have learned the most valuable life lessons. I believe the real tragedy is when people do not recognise their mistakes and continue to keep repeating them, and so embarks on a neverending cycle of behaviour, that does not help them to move forward and improve their lives.
Having said this, I do not want to diminish the impact that making mistakes, errors of judgement, can have on peoples lives. There is no doubt, that the affects of our actions can carry with them, the most terrible of consequences. The business man, who having made a poor judgement call, or took one risk to many; knows the bitter taste of bankruptcy. The husband or wife who felt taken for granted and in one mad moment, throws away many years of happy marriage; friends for many years, betray a confidence one too many times, knows the cold reality of being ostracized. The driver behind the wheel, who in a moment of inattention and carelessness, causes an accident that changes his life and the lives of others forever.
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As the old dies a new way of being will shine forth, you have to let go of what was, so that new growth can come through. You cannot become the true you while you cling to the past. You must learn from every mistake, and every disappointment, do not take anything personally, for that will only bring dark clouds near. A new life is waiting for you, if you listen wisely to the call of your heart. The sun will rise once more if you learn to see beyond what you were once taught.
Not everyone has had the good fortune to have had good teachers and good parents as they grew up. Everyone has learned from those around them, and if the influences were poor so would be the ability to understand this life properly. It is no shame to have had poor teachers, in fact the poorest teachers can often be the best teachers, if you learn to be discerning, for within their contradictions, there is always a grain of truth to be found. If nothing else they teach how not to be.
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