How often have you held back what you were wanting to say because you were worried about what others might think about you? Isn’t it funny how we often allow others to be who they are, even when we don’t particularly like or approve of their actions or words, and yet we are not prepared to do the same for ourselves.
Have you ever wondered why it is that some of the people around you do or say things that you find upsetting or annoying, but you still love being around them? The main reason we connect with others is because we are attracted to their energy. Often we believe the reason why others like us, is because of the way we act around them. Although some of that is truth, it is our energy that is the lighthouse beacon they are drawn to.
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The heart is synonymous with everything to do with love, as soon as you think of a heart shape, your first thoughts are about love. When your heart starts pounding while you are in the company of someone you are attracted to, your mind more than likely will be filled with thoughts of love. That powerful four letter word has a habit of taking control of your whole being not just your heart. Love has the power to make some walk through fire to find happiness, yet the downside can keep another person in bed all day, too depressed to wake to their aching heart.
Love can bring as much misery as it does happiness, it truly is a two sided coin. Heads you win, tails you fail. It does seem a lottery for many who flip their coin hoping to find happiness, yet sadly many do not see the face of their beloved or soulmate showing up, on the first few flips of the coin.
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Love, an emotion and state of being, that can lift people up to the heights of physical and emotional ecstasy. It is also capable of plunging them into the depths of despair. Particularly when things go wrong or love is not reciprocated. Whether we acknowledge it or not, for many love is rarely given, without an expectation of receiving ‘something’ in return. I believe that the root of discontent lies within these expectations, and is often the cause of disappointment in love; And this is why I believe that true happiness and inner contentment can only be found through loving without conditions or expectations.
To create the right conditions for this to occur. You must first learn to love yourself. To like and respect yourself for who you are. To feel comfortable in your own skin. To not rely on other people to fulfil you or to make your life complete. For anything that we cling to that is exterior to us, is transient. It is not so much that we will lose what we love. Though there is always that possibility. But because if we define or judge ourselves on the basis of those exterior experiences; on how successful or fulfilling they are. Then we base those feelings of self worth on perception and not reality. Something that could be taken away from us in any moment. Self love, is the only thing that remains when everything around us is changing.
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When we think of Soulmates, we most likely think about romance. Some people go through life searching for that perfect person who will make them feel complete. They discard anybody who doesn’t fit this description and believe there is only one perfect person out there for them. One story about soulmates describes how a person was separated into two halves and scattered far apart. Both halves then spent the rest of their lives trying to find their other half.
Although this sounds nice, in principle; if these people never find their soulmate, they can end up lonely and miserable. It may be true that there is one perfect person out there but the world is a huge place and it is disheartening to think that one may never find true love.
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